Regarding Lesbians

[tygati]

I work at a hardware store. Naturally, this means I get to meet quite a few lesbians and very few gayboys. ^^; Although there was this one pair that I'm pretty sure was...

Anyway, today I saw three lesbian couples, one of them I found to my surprise contained a lady I work with. She introduced me to "her sweetheart", Sandy. It was so cute. <3 They were picking out yard lights. ^_^

What continues to baffle me, though, is one of the other pairs I saw. I really, really don't understand why some lesbians choose to look like boys. I thought she was a boy until she said something. @_@ I mean, the point of being a lesbian is that you like girls... so, er, why would you want to look like a boy? Unless your partner was bi, I guess? Best of both worlds or something?

And I don't mean casual wear either, cause girls can wear casual/grunge/grubbies and still look like girls. No, this was men's haircut, men's shirt, men's pants, may-as-well-have-been-a-man.

*still baffled*

Comments

[shiruartist.livejournal.com]

Because gender is not a binary and it's generally more 'acceptable' in non heteronormative relationships to dress how one feels- but that's just my interpretation.

[shiruartist.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I think that there's also less pressure to buy into "what guys like". There might be less pressure to try and look pretty all the time- and just wear what's comfortable. (For me, short, almost 'boy' cut hair is awesome.)

[tygati.livejournal.com]

Ah, and whereas for me, I love long hair. On boys or girls. Long and pretty and play-with-able. ^__^

I guess there's no "what guys like" pressure, but what about "what girls like"? I mean, Mikey is very image-conscious, unless it's a quick trip to the store or something. So he's always considering what other boys might see in him.

[shiruartist.livejournal.com]

From what I see- there both is and isn't as much pressure-
Personally, I feel as though society and industry tends to place heavy emphasis on guys looking alright for girls and girls looking alright for guys and guys looking alright for guys... But there doesn't seem to be the same social boundary between women. Of course there are exceptions, and there is that need to look pretty/beautiful/sexy... but I dunno.

I'm probably not explaining this very well. ^^u

[tygati.livejournal.com]

Nah, you're explaining fine. If there is one thing this post has taught me, it is that people have wildly differing thoughts and tastes. ^__^

[shiruartist.livejournal.com]

Awesome! :D

[mechante-fille.livejournal.com]

Ooh, I like that. *nods*

[tygati.livejournal.com]

I guess I just can't fathom why one would want to dress like a boy. Boys can't dress themselves to save their life. x_X I don't like boy clothes on boys!

[shiruartist.livejournal.com]

Their clothes tend to the large and comfy. :)
I have several men's shirts that are my favorite pieces of clothing because of how nice they are. (Soft, stretchy, just... comfortable as heck.)
And then again, I laugh in the face of 'Fashion'. ^^u
Who cares how it looks so long as it's not falling off and is comfy?
But I will also dress like a boy, because I want to show a more gender neutral image.

[tygati.livejournal.com]

I have comfy girl clothes... >.> Like my 'Mornings' sweatshirt. And I am completely fashion-clueless. Just ask my long-suffering roomie. ^^;

But I like to dress nice, because I am not overweight like 90% of society, so it's nice to give people something nice to look at rather than flab. ^^; Or that's the idea anyway. I'm oblivious enough that I never notice whether or not anyone notices me.

[shiruartist.livejournal.com]

*shrug*
I got nothing else.

[aggybird.livejournal.com]

So the... 90% of overweight society isn't capable of dressing attractively? -_-;;

[tygati.livejournal.com]

The local ones anyway. x_X Though Ragdoll dresses nicely. I don't even notice her weight until she says something and then I'm all like "Oh yeah, huh." But she's in the way [i]way[/i] minority around here. *cringe* 300lb women should not wear belly shirts.

[scarletempyrean.livejournal.com]

Realize this is super late post... but to clarify, boys in Tokyo have good taste, most of them. (Their hair was better and longer than mind. -___-)
And my brother only wears Dior, Givenchy, and Alexander Mcqueen... though he will occasionally dip into other brands like Balenciaga and Lanvin.