Regarding Lesbians

[tygati]

I work at a hardware store. Naturally, this means I get to meet quite a few lesbians and very few gayboys. ^^; Although there was this one pair that I'm pretty sure was...

Anyway, today I saw three lesbian couples, one of them I found to my surprise contained a lady I work with. She introduced me to "her sweetheart", Sandy. It was so cute. <3 They were picking out yard lights. ^_^

What continues to baffle me, though, is one of the other pairs I saw. I really, really don't understand why some lesbians choose to look like boys. I thought she was a boy until she said something. @_@ I mean, the point of being a lesbian is that you like girls... so, er, why would you want to look like a boy? Unless your partner was bi, I guess? Best of both worlds or something?

And I don't mean casual wear either, cause girls can wear casual/grunge/grubbies and still look like girls. No, this was men's haircut, men's shirt, men's pants, may-as-well-have-been-a-man.

*still baffled*

Comments

[bitchypixii.livejournal.com]

As a les myself, though I wouldn't say I fit the mold of 'femme' or 'butch' (my hair is short because it's a nightmare to take care of long, but it's a gender-neutral cut that can get dressed up or down, and I own lots of guys clothes and I steal my brother's Old Spice in the shower but I still wear short skirts and go shoe shopping a lot) I'd say that the appeal has a lot to do with what makes you feel comfortable in your own skin, and also a lot to do with societal pressures (at least where I live, it's generally more acceptable to be lesbian if either your girlfriend or you looks like a boy; I don't get it, personally, but there's a lot about where I live that I don't get).

As for the girls that date them, whatever the packaging is like, inside is still a girl with a girl mind who acts in girl ways. Also, personally, androgyny is hot. And a (more femme) lesbian tends to want a lot of the same things a straight girl wants in a relationship; physical security, emotional support, etc., and personally it's a lot easier to find in a relationship with a butch than a relationship with another femme. At least, that's my two cents; having a grand total of two relationships in my life, I may not be as qualified to answer as others.

[tygati.livejournal.com]

Hey, everyone's opinion counts. It's been a very educational post. ^^;