Regarding Lesbians

[tygati]

I work at a hardware store. Naturally, this means I get to meet quite a few lesbians and very few gayboys. ^^; Although there was this one pair that I'm pretty sure was...

Anyway, today I saw three lesbian couples, one of them I found to my surprise contained a lady I work with. She introduced me to "her sweetheart", Sandy. It was so cute. <3 They were picking out yard lights. ^_^

What continues to baffle me, though, is one of the other pairs I saw. I really, really don't understand why some lesbians choose to look like boys. I thought she was a boy until she said something. @_@ I mean, the point of being a lesbian is that you like girls... so, er, why would you want to look like a boy? Unless your partner was bi, I guess? Best of both worlds or something?

And I don't mean casual wear either, cause girls can wear casual/grunge/grubbies and still look like girls. No, this was men's haircut, men's shirt, men's pants, may-as-well-have-been-a-man.

*still baffled*

Comments

[vera-dicere.livejournal.com]

i'm not entirely sure. i've always thought it had something to do with gender identity and that some lesbians really prefer a more masculine gender expression, even though they don't actually want to be men. i know quite a few girls who dress like boys, but are totally happy being physically female and being gay; they just feel more comfortable with a more masculine or androgynous gender expression for whatever reason. part of it might be societal, because we seem to expect that masculine/feminine dynamic in a relationship, be it hetero or homosexual, and so that's what we get. not always true, of course, just because it's what society expects doesn't make it right, but it's there.

but i have to say that some girls pull off the boy-look very, very well. i went to a women's college for undergrad, with a pretty high percentage of lesbian/bisexual students [even a few transgender], and gender expression is pretty free there. and there was one girl in particular who was totally hot, in large part because she dressed like a guy. and by 'dressed like a guy' i don't mean baggy, grungy clothes. she wore nice jeans, button down shirts, dressy-ish shoes...like, nice guy clothes. if you saw a guy dressed like her you might think 'metrosexual'. but she was hot and she was dating a girl in my class who we all thought was straight until she started dating this girl. so maybe there is sometimes an attempt to appeal to girls who are gay and/or bi? opens your options a bit, maybe? i don't know.

[tygati.livejournal.com]

Now see, if they all wore nice boy clothes, I probably wouldn't bat an eye. It's just because they wear ugly boy clothes that I twitch. Hmmm... >.>